This is something for all you girls/women/ladies out there..
No doubt, at some point in your lives, you were not "allowed" to stay at home alone while your parents were away. Wherever they went, you had to go. Your vacations were planned around theirs, and not the other way round. Sometimes your resentful brother had to stay home with you, just because البنت ما يصير تظل بروحها في البيت even past the age of 21, when she's already driving and working, etc.
What is the parents' justification for this? Are they being over-protective, afraid that something bad might happen to the daughter while she is home alone, (burglary, assault, etc.)? Or do they simply not trust their daughter alone at home, afraid she might turn their basement into a debauched sex club?
For a more extreme example of overprotection, click here
i like that basement idea..kind of a dungeon theme.. im sure that FCM has more to say on the subject ;)
ReplyDeletebut that also applies for guys. my folks are affraid of getting home to a whore-house...
I think it a mixture of both points.. being over protective, and being afraid of big orgies all around the living room? LOL
ReplyDeleteCan we get sex swings in Kuwait ?? and who sells'em ?? just curious !!
I think it makes parents feel less guilty for leaving their child home alone & children are children & we are more obliged to protect our girls traditionally because they are the (physically) weaker sex.
ReplyDeleteSo its all about muscles i guess.
I doubt (normal) parents think of their daughters in orgies unless they have reason to.
Moreover, as brothers are less & less protective and do not appreciate their role as body guard (because it limits them off their time on their orgies with the neighbor's daughter) parents are now feeling a lot less anxious about girls at home alone. Plus, the maids are their n'est pas? ;)
correction: their = there
ReplyDeleteThe "sex parties" reference was just an exaggerated example of some parents' irrational worries..
ReplyDeleteSome families are just programmed by habit not to leave the daughters alone, and when you ask them why they have no answer.
Young pre-teen girls need to be supervised for obvious reasons.
ReplyDeleteAs for girls in general, "Ill bnaya mithl 3a9foor". A girl is like a bird. If you keep her caged (at home) all her life then suddenly set her free, she will not know what to do with her freedom and may fly into a wall. If on the otherhand, you set the bird free from time to time, then it will get accustomed to freedom and practice good judgement and NOT fly into a wall. If you're letting a girl do as she pleases ALL the time, then she might fly out of your reach, and come back hurt and damaged. So girls need space accompanied with rules.
Personally, I've always been watched over, either by my parents or our helpers (I refuse to call them maids) 'till I reached the age of sixteen. If I strayed from the right path, they'd gently guide me back. I trust my parent's decisions and they trust mine.
I only have one complaint which is about my curfew. I have to be home by 9:30pm If I'm over at a friend's house or it's a birthday party, I'll push for 10:30pm but that's it. No later than that. No exceptions.
My brothers? They could come back at dawn or even sleep out if they wanted to. My mom would just check in on them from time to time by calling them but that's it.
Killish mo double standards :/
As I said before, I trust their decisions even if I don't like it. If they say it's "safer" for me to be indoors at night, then I will be indoors at night.
You're obviously still young, and therefore these rules make sense.
ReplyDeleteBut what do you think of women over 25 who still have to suffer these indignities?
I'm not even talking about ultra-conservative families, but supposedly educated families who should know better.
ReplyDeleteعزيزي أبو حفص،أعتقد مواضيعي شوي أذرب من مواضيعك، والا أنا غلطان؟
!!بعدين يا معوّد لا تنبّه اللو
Some protective parents have this "girl phobia" from the society; what would the neighbors say when bla bla bla.
ReplyDeleteDear Z.
ReplyDeleteWhat brought abt this subject!!!!!!
Well you could also ask me what brought ANY of the subjects I discuss on this blog...
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